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Loving Someone With Relationship Trauma: How Long Should You Wait for Them to Heal?

If your partner been hurt before—maybe by a toxic ex, a painful breakup, or a lifetime of emotional wounds—it can start to feel like you’re paying for someone else’s mistakes. If you’re wondering how long you should wait for someone to heal, or whether it’s okay to start thinking about your own emotional limits, you’re not alone.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

April 17, 2025

When Do Triggers Cross the Line? Understanding Personal Responsibility in Healing

Emotional triggers are a natural part of being human. When we experience something that reminds us of past pain or trauma, it can activate an intense emotional reaction—sometimes one that feels overwhelming. But what happens when our response to triggers starts to shift from managing our own reactions to expecting others to change their behavior to avoid triggering us?

Erin Kerns Vazquez

March 6, 2025

Intuition vs. Anxiety: How to Know the Difference

Both intuition and anxiety can send strong emotional signals, and if you have a history of overthinking or past trauma, it can be even harder to know which one to trust. If you’ve ever wondered whether to trust your gut or challenge your thoughts, this guide is for you.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

February 13, 2025

How to Break Free From Guilt and Shame

Have you ever replayed a mistake over and over in your mind, feeling like you can’t move past it? Or maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking, “I’m such a failure” after something goes wrong. These feelings are familiar to many people, and they fall into two distinct categories—guilt and shame. Many people carry these heavy emotions long after the moment has passed, leading to anxiety, depression, and self-doubt.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

January 30, 2025

Do You Have Victim Mentality?

For some, trauma can lead to a mindset known as victim mentality. While life certainly brings real difficulties, a pattern of seeing oneself primarily as a victim can prevent growth, strain relationships, and impact mental health.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

November 21, 2024

Are You Trauma Dumping?

It's natural to seek comfort in others when navigating stress, anxiety, or worry. It’s good to have a support system, and sharing and unburdening yourself can be very beneficial. However, it's crucial to recognize the fine line between a healthy vent and what's known as trauma dumping.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

March 21, 2024

Supporting Our Heroes: Understanding Veterans' Mental Health

Navigating the transition from military to civilian life presents unique challenges for veterans, especially in the realm of mental health. The invisible scars of deployment can affect veterans' well-being long after their service has ended. Unfortunately, a significant number of veterans encounter difficulties in accessing the mental health care they need.

Erin Kerns Vazquez

February 29, 2024

What are Dissociative Disorders?

Dissociative disorders are a complex group of mental health conditions that significantly impact a person's memory, identity, emotions, perception, behavior, and sense of self. This can severely disrupt every aspect of mental functioning, leading to significant difficulties in daily life

Erin Kerns Vazquez

February 1, 2024