It can be confusing to feel sadness or stress in the middle of something that’s supposed to be joyful. But the truth is, life transitions—even the positive ones—can stir up all kinds of emotions. At Medens Health, we often support people during these pivotal seasons of change, helping them navigate the mental and emotional fallout that often comes with major shifts. If you're in the middle of one now, you're not alone—and your experience is valid.
Graduating from school. Starting a new job. Moving to a new city. Getting married. Having a baby. These are the milestones we’re taught to celebrate—moments that signal progress, success, and growth. But more often than not, these “good” life changes can leave you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or emotionally off-balance. Here’s why:
Change often involves leaving something behind—your routines, your support system, your comfort zone, or even a piece of your identity. The brain naturally prefers the familiar because it feels safe, predictable, and manageable. So even if the change is wanted or long-awaited, your nervous system might still interpret it as a threat. That’s why transitions can bring on unexpected stress or anxiety.
Transitions often challenge the way we see ourselves. Moving from “student” to “professional,” or “child-free” to “parent,” can shake up your sense of identity. You may find yourself wondering: “Who am I now? What matters to me in this new role?” This identity uncertainty is common—and it’s also why life transitions can feel so emotionally disorienting.
We usually think of grief in the context of death, but it also shows up in less obvious ways. When you say goodbye to a chapter of your life—even one you were ready to leave—you might still feel a sense of loss. Maybe you miss your old coworkers, your old house, or the person you were before everything changed. That grief is real and worth acknowledging.
Many people feel ashamed for struggling during a life event that others see as “exciting.” You may find yourself thinking, “I should be grateful” or “What’s wrong with me?” But happiness and anxiety can coexist. You can be thrilled about the change and still grieve what you’ve left behind. Both are true, and both are normal.
Life transitions can be major or subtle, expected or sudden. Some examples include:
Even if these changes are ultimately positive, they can still stir up fear, grief, or uncertainty.
You might feel anxious, overwhelmed, or numb. You might cry more than usual, have trouble sleeping, or feel disconnected from others. Maybe your motivation disappears, or you find yourself second-guessing your choices. These are all signs that your nervous system is under stress—even if the people around you don’t understand why.
If you’re going through a big change—or one is on the horizon—therapy can help you meet it with steadiness and self-compassion. Professional support during life transitions can help you process difficult emotions, explore shifting identities, and cope with loss (even when it's ambiguous). Most importantly, it can help you build resilience and confidence in the face of uncertainty. If you know you’re about to go through a big life transition, it can be extremely beneficial to find a therapist and start working with them ahead of the change.
Transitions don’t have to be traumatic, but they do require care. At Medens Health, many of our providers are experienced in helping people navigate life transitions. We offer a compassionate, nonjudgmental space to explore your experience and gain the clarity and tools you need to move forward. Reach out to Medens Health today to connect with a therapist who can walk alongside you through life’s turning points.
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Disclaimer:
The information provided in this blog is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Reliance on any information this blog provides is solely at your own risk. Always seek the advice of your physician or a qualified mental health provider with any questions regarding your medical or mental health. If you don’t currently have a therapist, we can connect you with one who is qualified to give you safe, professional, and ethical advice regarding your mental health.
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